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Goals and Adventures

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Put the Big Rocks in First

Imagine that your most important goals are represented by big rocks you put in your “jar of life.” The sand that fills in around the big rocks are the things that take away time from investing in your most important goals. These include activities that aren’t necessarily important but distract us from our larger goals.  If we don’t put the BIG rocks in first (guarding time, attention, and energy for these things), there will be no room in our “jar of life” for these important goals.

Semiprecious stones canned in glass jar.

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The Value of Minimalism as Applied to Goal Setting

Minimalism involves intentionally promoting the things we most value and getting rid of the things that distract us from attaining those valuable things.   Living with fewer material possessions can be a way to remove distractions.  However, minimalism is really more about a way of thinking and a way of experiencing life that provides you greater freedom and happiness.  

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The Many Faces of Adventure

Adventure doesn’t just mean jumping out of an airplane or backpacking through Europe.  It means all kinds of things.  Adventure can be adapted based on our particular  circumstances and stage of life.  What adventure means to one person means something different to another.   You are the one and only you.  No one should or will live your life story….which is just as it should be.

Adventure can mean as a willingness to do somewhat risky or dangerous things but it can also mean a stirring experience or a willingness to do new things. Consider a fresh new take on your existing life — enriching the experiences and relationships already in front of you — as well as taking on new experiences outside your comfort zone.

What types of adventures will help you to experience life’s riches?

The Adventure of Enriching Your Spirit

The Adventure of New and Enhanced Existing Relationships

“Relationships are the essence of life.”

                                                    – -Bob Fulton

The Adventure of Parenting

The Adventure of Exploring the Culinary Arts

The Adventure of Pursuing Passions & Hobbies

The Adventure of Intellectual Pursuits

The Adventure of Career

The Adventure of Experiencing the Natural World

The Adventure of Making the World a Better Place

The Adventure of Creating Community

Your True Priorities

Goal setting is such an incredibly powerful tool.  It helps us tap into our potential and the abundance that life has to offer.   It can give our lives perspective.  What’s more, if your goals are aligned with your true priorities and inner desires, accomplishing them will be far easier.

Enjoy the journey.


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The Critical Role of Imagination in Goal Setting

Sign posted at my local Massage Envy

I saw this sign the other day and it made me smile and think that I should share it with my community given that I had recently suggested that people set their imagination free.  So what is imagination and how can we harness it to improve our lives?

Merriam-Webster defines imagination as such:

Definition of imagination 

1the act or power of forming a mental image of something not present to the senses or never before wholly perceived in reality


2acreative ability

bability to confront and deal with a problem RESOURCEFULNESSuse your imagination and get us out of here

cthe thinking or active mind INTERESTstories that fired the imagination



Imagination is something never before perceived in reality.  Being imaginative implies an ability to deal with the unknown as well as an ability to deal with and embrace change.  Thinking of imagination in this way can be daunting.  However, imagination also can help us develop a healthy discontent with our circumstances as they are.  Imagination can prod us out of ruts, push us out of bad habits and into good ones.  Imagination can instill a desire for accomplishment —  for attainment of our biggest dreams.

In my last post I invited you to set your imagination free.  Setting goals requires invoking your powerful imagination and guiding it with disciplined methods to attain those goals that will give you fulfillment.

So, revisit the prompters in my last post and see where your imagination takes you.  Future posts will help you distill your list of “I want, I wish…” into concrete goals but engaging your imagination is the first step.

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Step 1 of Goal Setting: Capture Your Dreams

When you’re relaxed and in a receptive state, make a list of all your desires, everything you have or might ever want.    Don’t limit yourself by money, physical ability or any other thing that might inhibit you.

You can brainstorm on a pad of paper or on your computer.  Use whichever method you feel will enable you to brainstorm the best.  Don’t worry about categorization at this point, or anything else other than covering as many pages as you can with your wishes, hopes and dreams.

Some areas of life are listed below to prompt you:

  • Family/Home/Marriage/Partner
  • Physical Health/Mental Health
  • Career/Finances
  • Ethics/Spiritual Growth/Personal Growth
  • Social/Cultural/Friends/Adventure/Travel

Don’t forget to include anything and everything that would give you pure joy, and anything that sounds fun.

I’m not including any images in this blog because I don’t want to influence you but feel free to peruse magazines or the internet to inspire you.  You might even create a physical or digital folder to capture these inspiration images — these will be useful to jog your aspirations for your best self as well as help you make your goals a reality in the future.

Here are some prompters:

  • What would you like to do that you haven’t done yet?
  • Where do you want to live?  Do you want a second home?
  • What  places you would like to visit?
  • What accomplishments will bring meaning to your life?
  • Who do you want to become?
  • Are there any habits you want to create or break?
  • Are there talents you would like to persue?
  • What do you want from life?
  • Are there any tangible wants or needs you have?
  • If you develop your talents and abilities more effectively, what could you accomplish?
  • What would you really like to do?
  • What income would be satisfactory?
  • How do you want to spend your working time?
  • How do you want to spend your leisure time?
  • What could you do to improve your most important relationships?
  • Is there a dream that you have?
  • What do you find interesting and inspiring?
  • If money were no object, how would you spend your time?
  • Are you putting anything off until you feel “ready”?
  • Describe your perfect day.
  • How do you ideally want to receive and give your love?
  • What types of positive changes would you like to see in your life?  In your relationships?
  • How would you like to grow as a person?

Ready, set…. dream on.  List everything you have ever wanted.  This is your personal wish list.  Add anything and everything, no matter how unrealistic it might seem at the moment.  Don’t limit yourself by judging your dreams or deeming yourself unworthy.  No dream is silly or unimportant.  Set your imagination free.

I want… I wish….I hope for….

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The Best Version of Yourself

Besosa Designs is a lifestyle blog that is part design resource, part inspiration resource for mazimizing your life adventure.  I invite you to  “Design Your Life.”  Areas of Life Design include goal setting,  personal fulfillment, travel and adventure, and life experiences. My Facebook page is my way of creating a community of people to support eachother on their Life Adventures.

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In my blog series, I offer inspiration and advice to help you plan and enjoy those experiences that will result in your best personal adventure.  This means something different to each person.  Success means entirely different things to different people and even to ourselves depending on the stage of life we are currently in.

I invite you to become the best version of yourself.  You are special and unique —  there is no one who can ever take your place.  Please join me on this journey of adventure and discovery.




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Maui Jim Sunglasses

Ditch the Glare

My life improved significantly when I took my eye doctor’s advice and purchased a pair of Maui Jim sunglasses.  The glare of the Atlanta sun can be bothersome at the least, and debilitating at best.  Too often the sun would give me a headache, even with an off the shelf pair of sunglasses.

Color, Clarity, Detail

Maui Jim sunglasses have six technologies to pop color, enhance clarity, and reduce glare.  They come with a bit of a price tag, but you only get one set of peepers, and this is one way to take care of them and enhance the beauty around you.

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Recommended by Eye Doctors

There is a reason you will find eyeglass retailers offering these outstanding sunglasses.  They are the best at protecting your eyes.  Check out Maui Jim’s web page and learn about these top rate sunglasses.  You can find a retailer near you or order from  to find your perfect pair. They offer free returns.

Tips for Eye Health and Preventing Macular Degeneration

  • Maintain a healthy weight.
  • Eat a nutritious diet that includes green leafy vegetables, yellow and orange fruit, fish and whole grains. (Tip: load 1/2 your plate with veggies and fruit, 1/4 with protein, and 1/4 with carbs.)
  • Don’t smoke.
  • Maintain normal blood pressure.
  • Exercise regularly.

See for Yourself – Maui Jim’s are Different

Treat Yourself

Treat yourself to a pair for your next vacation or just your next walk around the block.



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AirBnB Experiences


I recently saw an interview with the CEO of AirBnB. He said that hosts have been contacting the company wanting to offer more than just a place to stay. They want to offer experiences. Interested in nature? One host offers an excursion through a wolf preserve.  Love fashion? How about spending a day with an editor from MarieClaire.  Maybe you’re a foodie. A San Francisco man gives you a day of local cuisine centered around the Mission.

If I look back on my life, the things that stand out are the atypical experiences. The day my parents brought home our family dog from the pound. The day of my ballet recital, when the lovely Miss Barbara came out in a royal blue tutu and silver pointe shoes. A perfect sunny fall day, when our entire family (six of us, plus the dog) took a hike together. My dad looking out over the lakeside view of our New Hampshire rental cabin, sharing sardines with our dog, looking relaxed and happy, enjoying a much-needed rest from work.

When you make your list of must-see travel destinations, don’t forget to include experiences you want to have. Perhaps many of them are right in your home town. Some of these excursions cost less than $20 per person.

My husband’s company does a lot of relationship building. Not too surprising given that the founder repeatedly stated that “the essence of life is relationships.” Lately, staffers have been attending cooking classes together. Mark always returns home jazzed and having had a wonderful time. Partly because he’s a big time foodie and a wonderful chef. But I also think it’s because he’s connecting with his associates in a way he doesn’t normally get to do on a regularly work day. Perhaps one reason these experiences are so popular is because people are gaining that connection that we don’t get checking in and out of a hotel. The uncomfortable few minutes with strangers in the elevator en route to our hotel room is turned into a meaningful experience and new relationships.

Check out some of the experiences offered on AirBnB.

Enjoy the journey.